How DIP Lite Improved my Life

Klavdija shares the changes she has noticed in her life after she started using the DIP Lite tools:

I sdiplite-improved-my-lifetarted with DIP Lite in December 2014 when I start with the course. I was doing it almost every day. I learn a lot about me and how I work. Now I know that all people have similar problems. DIP Lite course gives you a good basic understanding about how to change yourself.

I have a lot of pimples on my face, but now it is cleaner. I had painful menstruations too. The pain was so strong that I had to take a pill the first day of menstruation. Then I talked with someone about this problem and he gave me a link to the post about it. I read it. There it was explained why we have painful menstruation. We hate our body. Because of this, I decide to write a blog on this subject, because I know how to write to help myself which is what I learned through the course and when I started to write a blog. I see the results. Lately it does not hurt so much and I don’t need the pills anymore.

I know that this is only the beginning and that I must work more on accepting my body, but this is the beginning of my change to a better life. I see changes in other parts of my life as well. DIP Lite course gave me the basic knowledge on how to improve my life.

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From Alcoholic to Self-Responsible Individual with the DIP Tools

Jan shares his journey in walking the DIP Lite and DIP Pro courses, how he has empowered himself to stand up from alcoholism to become a self-responsible individual:

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“I no longer believe that my existence is up to you. From now on it’s up to me. But who is you and me?

During my DIP PRO writing investigation I learned skills which support me to recognize my ability and responsibility. This process started during the DIP LITE course by knowing, seeing, understanding and listening to my self-accepted patterns and expectations. The PRO shows me deeper and more specific skills to be free of my reactions caused by my own thoughts and memories. To in this – see, realise and understand how I’ve been able to internally communicate within/as the extent that I do. This extent named as the mind.

I learned to see my own blame-thoughts and expectations, which I didn’t realized, see and understand in moments of mind-speak. Thoughts that blend with my feelings and emotions. That is how it was possible that I mixed my feelings, during the times when I pointed my finger against others, just because my interpretations and acts as my mind told me to do.

During walking I realized that my progression of new Life results often in disappointing experiences. I realized this because of the ‘why questions’ I asked myself, which showed me the importance of seeing and understand the beginning and the existence of the mind starting points as me in me, as the occurrence of my unfulfilled child’s desires, demands and expectations.

I realized that those old expectations, which I created as my own thoughts, feelings and emotions, had often been replaced by new ones. I replaced the old ones with new ones. And so I compared my new decisions whit old information. Old stuff based on my own accepted and allowed interpretations, had been walking around as my/the mind existence and expectations.

So, more and more, step by step, I realized that my/the first step to take was recognize the existence of first ancient initial expectations was one important part of my journey to Life. The second one is recognize and acknowledge the mind as a separate section within E.Y.E.

My awareness journey started when I came to a point in my life that I ended up in a crisis. The cry within me for external attention reached its peak. I drank a lot of alcohol and got suicidal. I was frustrated and confused and fled away from my feelings and emotions. I did not dare to commit suicide, caused by my doubt and fear of the unknown. So I decided to dial 112/911 and told the operator my plan that I wanted to commit suicide. But in my mind actually I longed for recognition and appreciation. So when the officers came to my house they made a proposal. Whether we bring you to a psychiatric hospital, ore you voluntarily go to start with rehab?

From this point in my life it became my responsibility. So you have to make other choices the officers also told me. Because the next time we come to your door we will know what to do. It’s up to you!!! At this stage I was not familiar with the fact that my mind created my own fears, feelings and emotions which controlled my Self-honest physical awareness.

During the journey I learned to watch and become aware of my mind-self and recognized what my thoughts were telling me to do when I move and what moves me. So now, when I recognize a pattern or thought in myself, I introspect and I Move Myself, instead of automatically reacting or drinking beers.
This system I’ve seen in others when I’d been pointing my finger, was my mind existing. During writing and walking I learned to recognize, supported by my DIP LITE and PRO buddies and other Destonians, the blame game I played in/as my own mind-construct.

I realize that this is my responsibility concerns which I’m sincerely facing. I do not drink alcohol anymore for three years and when mind points popup I Stop and Breathe myself out of the reactions in my mind and honestly face my fear resistance instead of drinking beers. The physical behavioral change that took place in the moment I was faced with my fear was flight-response, which I suppressed with alcohol for 3 decades.

With self-forgiveness and self-corrective statements I’m no longer following the suppression and flight-orders of my mind.

Thanks.
Jan Megens”

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Taking a Risk to Investigate Desteni

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“If I didn’t take a risk, then I wouldn’t have been who I am right now. I took a risk by investigating Desteni and what it has to offer and what it means. I took a risk by undertaking the DIP Lite course. I didn’t know what was ahead for me, when investigating Desteni, or doing the DIP Lite course. But, the risk paid off. Now, I’m a changed person in every way, shape or form – the person who I had no idea I could be, someone who is worthy of life, and the title of life, being life.

Stepping into the unknown can be scary at first. It’s so tempting to just stick to the ‘easy route’ and the route that one knows well, and to never veer off that route, but within doing so, one doesn’t experience/learn what else exists outside of this pre-determined route and self-created route. Expanding oneself is so damn cool! I can see within myself, that I can actually be whatever I want to be. I can have whatever job that I want. There is nothing in reality that is stopping me from doing what I want/being what I want – that is what I learnt through investigating Desteni/doing the DIP Lite course.

Investigating Desteni is to release the shackles that one does not even know they are in. But, even the faintest idea of ‘something not being right’ whether within oneself/something externally, that in itself is worth checking out. Nothing else out there is similar in any way, shape or form to what Desteni has to offer all. It provides the tools for ANY question that one has. It has the remedy for any shackle one believes themselves to be in.

So, take a risk, take a chance, take a shot – yes it’s unknown territory, but if you never go to that territory, then you’ll never know what opportunities exist for yourself to grow exponentially in every way, shape and form. Investigate Desteni, realise the potential that you can be, that we can all be, as life – it’s never too late.”

— Anthony

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The DIP way brings you back to your core

L.V. shares the story of how he was introduced to Desteni ‘I’ Process and what he has experienced and realized when walking the free DIP Lite course:

back-to-your-core“I got acquainted with DIP Lite accidentally when I got to know someone who walked the ‘Process’. He roused my interest in the matter as what he told me made sense: that our consciousness is determined by language, and that through deeper insight and redefining ‘important’ words that define your life and mind (like ‘honesty’ or ‘love’) you are changing your perception. Changing your perception by redefining ‘your’ words equals redefining your consciousness, which is WHO YOU ARE. Taking responsibility and directive for who you are opens up the possibility to DIRECT YOUR LIFE BY CHOICE. So what you actually do is changing your life through changing your consciousness by taking the directive in living and expressing important words that you redefined in a realistic and constructive way for yourself. Words – choice – consciousness – change. It’s a simple as that.

As much as his words were reasonable, what struck me as most convincing was his demeanor: in those weeks we spent traveling together he remained stable and consistent, even in situations that would make some of us ‘shaky’. As this was an important indicator of his stability, what was even more convincing was that he always remained open, honest and relaxed in his social interactions, not being drawn into emotions and thoughts of insecurity, negativity or pretense. He was ‘aligned’ and ‘real’ you could say. This convinced me that there might be something very interesting going on. So I decided to look into this DIP thing.

As I started walking DIP Lite I discovered more and more how this simple but effective method can impact your psyche and thus the way you live your life. It sets out with obtaining more insight in your thinking and emotional processes, to proceed with dealing with the mind practically through self-forgiveness and self-corrective statements: two methods that work surprisingly well in opening yourself up, preparing you for change, to finally direct your mind in the direction YOU want it to go, in the way YOU want yourself be. So this course is very comprehensible, practical and hands-on so you can conveniently start working on your psychological foundation while opening up the road for personal change.

As a psychologist (MSc.) and lifecoach with a strong background in spirituality I have seen quite some different methods and techniques for working with the mind and initiating personal change. None of them were so fundamental and at the same time so simple, practical and grounded, which makes the DIP / Process way the winner when it comes to effectiveness and depth in becoming self-realized. The DIP way brings you back to your core, to who you are, while placing you in your directive: that is, where you want to go.

To bring it all together: I can definitely recommend to do this course, as it is an excellent introduction into the process of personal change. In this course you will learn the basics of how to investigate and shape your mind in a way that is serving you. You will learn the fundamentals of how you can come home within yourself, while setting out a path in life that will realize your utmost potential.”

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Don’t Wait – Investigate

I wish I could magically go back and gift myself the tools I have now….

I wish I could magically go back and gift myself the tools I have now….

When I was young I often held myself back from experimenting and trying new things if I thought it would result in opening myself up to criticism or failure.  It was important to me to appear strong within my family dynamic. I didn’t want to be singled out so I avoided big ‘challenges’ unless I knew I could be successful. As a child I wanted to please my mother but I grew to resent this role and all the other people I tried to please. I wanted a break from myself – from my mind and from the roles I took on. The defensive, rebellious person I had become was not easy to contain. The disparity between being myself and wanting to be seen in my scripted version required lots of energy and time. I just wanted to relax. I tried meditation, I tried spiritual pursuits, I tried relationships, I tried drugs and I tried work. I thought if I had a professional ‘label’ – that by virtue of it, I would not have to explain myself to others. I left what I liked doing (art and other activities) and spent a lot of money and time choosing to become a teacher. The problem was, I didn’t really want to be a teacher. To now realize it didn’t have to be that way is a gift I would like to share with others.

There’s more of course, but the point is that if I had a tool like the Desteni I Process when I was in my teens and twenties I could have saved myself a ton of grief. I would have seen the patterns and beliefs that drove the impulses and decisions I made and I would have realized I have a choice: to not participate in my drama and get on with my life!

It’s not easy to face the realization that you can’t go back and have a ‘do over’ – so those of you who can avoid this, I strongly urge you to do so.

– Testimonial by JL

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All of my past relationships have failed, because I didn’t have a relationship with myself

Carlton shares his experience of walking the Agreement Course offered by Desteni ‘I’ Process

gears-812133_1280“Ok I’m going to keep this simple, short, real and to the point. IT WORKS, I mean it really works. I am referring to the Desteni I Process Agreement Course, where it has assisted and supported me tremendously in my everyday living and the change from the person I used to be, to a more self-aware person, where I have learned how to communicate effectively and build a relationship with myself, where all of my past relationships have failed, because I didn’t have a relationship with myself and did not know how to communicate with women, let alone anyone else effectively for that matter, meaning the point of me really getting to know someone unconditionally was none existent, it was just getting to know them to the point of me being able to get something self-interest related from them and that was it.

For instance when I would meet a girl, a woman, my communication would only go as far as the basics in asking what’s your name, age , where they were from and if they were in a relationship or not and that was it. Not once did I consider asking their interest or perspective on things, because I was too busy stuck in my mind, thinking as all other male do and/or have done in the same situation, about having sex with them, I mean to really get to know someone unconditionally you first have to stop your mind and without the tools to do that, for me it was virtually impossible. So;

Before I started the DIP Pro Agreement Course, I first signed up for and took the FREE online Course DIP LITE, (Desteni I Process LITE) which assisted me with the tools I needed to stop my mind. I recommend starting with this Free Course, which you can find on the Desteni Website www.desteni.org, it did wonders for me as a beginner course in learning about my mind, how and why we think and what thoughts/feeling/emotions are and how to stop them and become more self-aware of who we really are.

Up until the point of finding Desteni and taking a few of their online courses, I can self-honestly say that my life was literally a mess, where all my relationships were collapsing, (it they hadn’t already failed) I constantly found myself in conflict with others people in my world and reality, all the decisions I made, ended up not worth deciding on, although I didn’t admit it to myself, I was a very emotional person, I suppressed everything, anything that had to do with change in myself in anyway what so ever, I resisted and to top it off, I was unreliable. So in laymen terms, this was a God send or might I say God find, that I found Desteni. Lol.

After taking the courses, (and of course I’m still learning) Now, when it comes to conflict situations, I’m learning to breathe myself through them and direct the situation to the best possible outcome. I’m learning how to base all my decisions on that which is best for all life. I’m no longer an emotionally driven and/or reactive person, but instead one that directs my actions. I now investigate/introspect my relationship with myself, to ensure that I am not suppressing and/or harboring any emotion and/or feeling reactions. And most of all, I am now able to communicate effectively with others because I have built an intimate relationship with myself.

So if you are ready to really live life and create a life worth living, full of expression with cool relationships, where you’re able to communicate effectively with everyone you come across, I recommend letting your fingers do the walking straight to the Desteni Website www.desteni.org, scroll down to DIP Lite (Desteni I Process Lite) and click on Start Lite.

Thanks
Carlton”

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Agreement Course for Self-Support – Testimonial

Talamon shares his testimonial after completing the Agreement Course offered by Desteni ‘I’ Process:

DIP-Relationships“Trouble with relationships? Or to even realize how to approach dreams, desires, one’s own mind and challenges? What is Self- and mutual agreement and how to learn to not only understand but be able to change self in accordance what is practical love? This course is really great self-support, I recommend it with full of my ‘heart’!

http://desteniiprocess.com/courses/relationships

I studied at different schools, courses, at university, but this was the most difficult and yet also the most rewarding course I have ever walked through, because I was facing, learning how and who I am, what I actually accept and allow, what is currently the self-dishonesty I participate within, which is not only suppresses and compromises my life, but also my present or possible future partner too and some times there was resistance which I had to push myself through but after that I was able to see how I can stop participating and changing myself to stop the fear and inner conflict.

If there is resistance within me, it must be suspicious – why I can be open with myself? What is the reason I block something from myself within? Don’t I trust myself being able to handle this? Or what is it? Fear? I suggest any inner resistances must be understood, because it can hide gifts we did not even consider always avoiding to find within ourselves.

Also to recognize, any automatic judgement towards anything can be based on a resistance based on a conviction fueled by a certain fear of loss – but that judgement really supports me and my partner, my reality and everybody else?

The ability to see the patterns within my starting point and to see what is being compromised with fear and self-interest gives the ability to also understand the WHY, which is also required to be able to find real physical time practical solutions for the difficulties I face not only in relation to who I am but also how I form and live my relationships.

It was a difficult decision when I realized that the relationship I was within was not supporting me and my partner as well, there were too much compromises and bruises which we did not face and solve, thus accumulated our own reactions to the point of having real difficulties to openly communicate, share and agree on points, within which I was kind of stuck, we could not step forward to move and live together, yet we wanted, so I had to realize, I must find a new way on trying to solve the problems I face.

There was hope and regret, desire and suppression, worry and stubbornness, pride and anger, which all mixed together to a point wherein I realized I need a process of self-support – then I was suggested to start walking the Agreement Course.

I was already introduced to another Desteni I Process online course and also to the concept and principle of Self-honesty, Writing and Self-forgiveness, which also supported me in the decision to invest into this course.

Yes, there is a fee, but in comparison to not to pay or to remain within inner conflict, resulting to external conflict, I rather paid for the course, which by I support those who are designing and upgrading this course and also constantly being there for regular chats, reviewing the assignments and giving support not only for me but for many others, so it was a decision I will never regret. Within this world, money also can support life – not equal currently, but currently it is how things move. Also because not only me I see learning and changing, expanding and sharing by the things I learn and change, but also my direct reality, others who are around me, and also the whole reality, which is so to speak the judge of me in terms of what consequences I accumulate what actually remains in this world. In relation to this, relationships.

Agreement is an interesting word, what can I agree with myself? – Sounds silly, but I see it much more clear now, that real intimacy is not about sex, but the ability to open up to the degree of absolute vulnerability and openness and to not lie to myself about what I really want and then to also see why – not stopping where I see a feeling justifying a conviction, but to see what memories, words, resonances I associate with. Is there any fear, selfishness, any compromise which by I am being influenced during my expression, influencing my partner, my relationship?

There is nothing mystical within the human existence, there is not even such thing as ‘truth’ – only denial of what is here. But sometimes HERE is not what being seen, but one’s own interest projected onto the table, thus with twisted, distorted perception we still participate, act and react, which we accept to ‘move’ ourselves by sometimes quite automatically without even stopping for a moment, or only too late to consider – is it really what I want for myself, for the other, is it the best I can be, or there is more potential within myself, in this relationship?
Is there any addiction, obsession, possession which we are not absolutely satisfied with? Can I accept myself as it is to Eternity or is there anything I will be ashamed of when I see all of my life, all of my decisions, thoughts, words, actions? Or is there something I would do differently? Maybe I can change it, my starting point to correct manifested consequences today without the fear, doubt…
For these points, walking Agreement course I am here seeing that I am more open and more clear on what I do and what is what I do not accept within myself and within my relationship, yet to consider where is still I am limiting myself based on a perception which is based on fear. Then to recognize the pattern, to understand it’s source, core – myself – and to take responsibility for and live the principle of ‘give as I would like to receive’ and stop participating before reacting, acting by it again.

Even it sounds as the easiest, the most difficult thing we can face is to be able to be absolutely self-honest with ourselves in all moments within consistency and to recognize that our mind, thoughts, feelings, even emotions can not be trusted until we walk through a process of self-investigation, purification. Because we were not absolutely aware with understanding and presence, direction and clarity when we had our first impressions, formed our own opinions, created our dreams of future, judged ourselves or others, learned the patterns from others. The innocence to return to yet being responsible is not just possible but practically walkable in physical real timeline.

Anyone states ‘I am done, already good enough, perfect’ – must be suspicious, I would not trust that – so then who shall I trust? Myself, of course, it’s common sense, I am always with myself, so not to trust me is not practical, and kind of dis-empowering anyway…

Because if I do not trust myself absolutely, even for a moment – how can I trust within my decisions, within my given trust to others? Or within my perceptions, my feelings, my desires?

So walking Agreement course really can give an edge and support to understand and learn to start trusting oneself and I would really suggest to incorporate somehow such lessons into basic schooling, because it gives the ability to question and answer, stop and change not only our reality, but also ourselves – and there are many people who already have emotional burden, bruises, regret or shame, unfulfilled desire, anger or pity, fear or worry about points and things what can’t admit how one is accepting to be influenced, consumed by…

And there is the saying ‘Time heals’ – well, not everything, time, by itself is not enough, SELF must be the directive principle for real change…

Here is a great article about this exactly:

Time heals all wounds. Does it really? – Day 517

There are doors what we might not even seeing that we closed, we feel resisted to open up, which is necessary for absolutely understand our created mindset, personality, beingness to the specificity which is required to re-learn, to forgive for accepting ourselves to limit, suppress, deny real self-honesty.

This course is also great, because the Buddy who we regularly chat with and reviews our assignment is someone who also walked this course and already faced these aspect of self, with somebody who already walked through the points, so it’s an external point of view if we open up and share to the difficult, intimate points we might not even dare to acknowledge to ourselves that we stuck, we became uncertain.

And there are really cool things which can be done for those who walk with partner – but also many things what can – and even should – be applied towards self, and then to share the result.

There are many topics in this course, like exploring possible self-sabotage points, what we might not even realize because we learned unconsciously from family, the world system, or how to enhance and purify aggression-free communication, how to establish a common vocabulary wherein the meaning of words are agreed upon, thus there is no misunderstanding, or how to approach sex the way that it is not in the mind, but rather shared physical, real enjoyment and share and so much more…
There are so many closed doors among partners, marriage, so to speak ‘lovers’ – but to base partnership according to feelings, thoughts, judgements, desires, which are also changing by the moment, circumstances we are within – also should not be trusted when establishing long-term agreement based on the principle of mutual-self-agreement and support.
So I suggest this course with full of my beingness and I am a living human being that stating within absolute certainty that this is really supportive, worthy for time and effort and it’s invaluable and I have never ever found any similar course/study/support in this world similar, which should not be missed if possible.

I will write more on the agreement and relationship topic later.

http://desteniiprocess.com/courses/relationships

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DIP is LIFE HERE

Mike shares his experience in walking Desteni ‘I’ Process Pro:

Desteni-water-dropDIP Pro is a profoundly specific way to learn how our mind functions….and specifically our relationship and responsibility to our Mind, Body and Being Here. It’s quite fascinating to investigate the specifics of my mind…though, I’ve faced tremendous amounts of resistance to actually moving myself through the DIP PRO assignments. As I got into the specifics of mind constructs I hit a sort of road block….the irony here is that moving through a mind construct is sort of like coming face to face with a ‘road block’….and for me within this experience it was difficult because it’s like you see so much of yourself that you have always allowed yourself to kind of skirt or gloss over.

DIP Pro is a one of a kind course that is Profoundly Awesome. The amount of Awe inspiring moments one may experience within this course is “Ridiculously Wow”. You got to check this out for yourself.

I would definitely recommend Anyone who is considering to participate in the Desteni I Process, to DO IT NOW….DON’T DELAY.  I did, and I wouldn’t want that for anyone.  The support and assistance here is so cool. The way the course is structured it is very much rooted in  and as ‘do it yourself’ self-support. Though, equally cool is the point of having a Buddy within the course to which you can cross reference things with…and someone to share your story/process with, as you move through the layers of the mind.

The buddy feature really is something quite special. Your buddy has also walked this process and so they are really here for you to share perspective and insights with…and their ability to relate to you and where you are at is rather profound. The buddy relationship alone is reason enough to invest in DIP Pro.  It is an awesome life enhancement.

DIP Pro, an out of this world course…it’s really that good.

I am grateful for DIP Pro, It’s helped me help myself in making my Life so much more.

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Stepping into Adulthood, DIP beside me

Bitia shares how Desteni ‘I’ Process has assisted her to change her relationship to fear and how she is now walking into the next phase of her life with confidence and self-trust. May her story of self-empowerment be a source of inspiration for many!!

“I began the DIP Prgrass-546794_1280o course 9 months ago. The first thing that I appreciated about it is the way it is structured, because it allows me to work thoroughly with specific points, placing them all first in front of me through writing, then walking the self-forgiveness, and eventually the self-corrective statements.

My longest and most recent completed assignment is one where I covered my fear of going to university. As a youngster of 19 years old, soon stepping out of my “teens” and becoming a young adult, I found myself extremely anxious in the face of new decisions, like choosing the career path that I wanted to undertake, and therefore the kind of future that I want for myself.

Immigrant at the age of 12 with my mother, in a completely different environment from which I grew up, after 7 years, I found myself with mixed feelings, I felt lost, I didn’t know what road my life should take. My family, the culture that I related to, many friends, and my mother tongue were all in Mexico (where I was born), my career, and the hope of a better future were in Canada, in the city of Montreal, and the tranquillity, the friendships, and the joy of living around nature I found in a little village in Canada, 15 hours away from the city. I wanted everything at the same time, but I couldn’t have it, I felt lost, not belonging anywhere. “What do I want my life to look like in the future? What will I define as happiness and self-fulfilment?” – I asked myself. “Who I am, Where do I go, Who will I be?” – Existential questions like these came more often to my mind, from which a certain confusion arose.

That confusion came like a storm in my mind, the worst part of the storm began about 6 months ago, when my body began to show more and more signs and alerts that the anxiety and stress under which I lived everyday, since a very young age, were harming me. A top student, having earned “excellence recognitions” in most of my years of schooling, I felt unfulfilled and unbalanced in the inside, having a highly developed academic intelligence, but lacking a practical and emotional one. I knew that I couldn’t continue living the way I did, in constant pain due to various digestive and dermatological ailments caused by the stress and anxiety that I felt constantly. I felt weak, my emotions were crushing me. I lacked interaction with people around me, due in the most part to the time I devoted to my studies.

My lack of patience and my tendency to overwhelm and drown myself in my own sea of emotions led me to a very dark place inside myself, where I began to think that nothing was really worth it and that I wouldn’t be able to succeed in university with all those emotions taking over me. Even though I had the tools presented in the DIP, I felt weak in the face of my emotions, I didn’t feel capable of overcoming that constant stress and anxiety, and being a calm and directive person, I lacked self-trust. I got to a point where, by the end of my 2 very successful years of College, I almost dropped out and refused my admission to law school, my fear of it was paralyzing, and I considered suicide as a way of ending that internal relentlessness.

I would say that getting to such a low point and almost compromising my future, even though it was very hard, at the same time opened my eyes to considering “living” as a decision, instead of suiciding myself, and if I opt for living, then why not live differently? Do I really need fear and stress? Why do I need to live like this? Why couldn’t I be calm and self-directive? – So, despite my lack of self-trust to handle my emotions, I still gave a try to using the DIP to step out of that state. I wrote my assignment slowly, but thoroughly, and had weekly chats with my buddy, which were very supportive.

When I finished my assignment and read what I had written, I realized that change starts with understanding. By writing what was going on in my mind, structuring it, and answering my own questions until I came to points of realization in the self-forgiveness statements, what I was doing was understanding, understanding how my fear came to be, how it was manifesting itself, and also what consequences it was having and could have had in my life – what happened once I understood what I was doing…to myself…is that, I couldn’t go back to that state of fear again.

It isn’t magic, it is just understanding. Let’s take for example a child that enjoys feeding ducks, but then someone explains to him the detail of how he is harming the animal by feeding him – once the child understands and is aware of this, he can no longer come back to his initial point of ignorance, and the next time he will see ducks, he will think twice before feeding them, and most probably won’t do it. Well, that’s what the Desteni I Process has helped me to achieve, a point of self-understanding in relation to my fear, almost paranoia of university, a state to which I just can’t go back, because I understand more what it is, how it came to be, and where it will lead me if I remain there.

I am soon entering university, I feel a little nervous, the fear still emerges, but it doesn’t paralyze me as it used to. Before, I used to express my own self-doubt and lack of self-trust by asking people if they thought that the career path that I chose, that of law, is the right choice for me, many discouraged me from doing so, telling me that it is a very stressing and demanding path, which made me feel even more nervous and afraid – today, I tell people that I am going to study law, I agree with them that the career will be demanding, but I also say that I trust myself and that I will do my best to succeed.

To conclude, I can say that, as I am entering a new stage of my life and facing important decisions, choosing in between many different roads, regardless of the part of the world in which I live, DIP is helping me to make the best decisions, because I am not letting myself be led by my emotions, and the choices that I am making are often backed with understanding. I am glad that I gave DIP a try, the more I use it, the more I find it interesting, the more I am passionate about understanding myself.

I can say that I have changed, I am calmer and much more stable than I was 6 months ago, people around me have commented on this change and my family is happy to see me well again, ready for these coming years full of challenges.

I am very grateful to my buddy and to the DIP team!”

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